word power
"sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt" is a childhood saying that we soon learn is completely untrue. I am sure every single person in the world can think of at least 5 or 500 things someone said that hurt them. I have words that have been said to me that I will never forget. The hurt has unfortunately shaped me a little, usually in a bad way. However I have always claimed to never be a "words" person.Please note I have never read the 5 love languages book (and I don't ever plan too:) but I know the basics of the idea. I am a stanch quality time and physical touch person. Words of affirmation have never been my cup of tea. I get awkward and have no idea what to say when someone talks to me about me. I never know what to say or how to respond. My immediate reaction is to deflect and declare the opposite of what ever said person is telling me.
However over the last few days and weeks I have been learning that words are becoming really important to me. I don't know why the change....maybe it is the fact that most of the people I care about most in the world are far so words are all we have...maybe they have always mattered and I have never wanted to admit it...maybe I want to start cancelling out those bad things with good things...
I still get awkward and really want to deflect, but I am also working really hard at just saying thank you. I want to let those words roll around in my head. They make me feel cherished and beyond blessed. Of course now that I am starting to accept the words of others it is reminding me that I have to return the word love to others...which can make me just as awkward:)
posted by deanna @ 7:21 PM
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